English Diary : 9 Ways to make yourself more likeable in work and in life (2020.09.04)

9 Ways to make yourself more likeable in work and in life

 

 

1. Say the person’s name. people love to hear their own names. especially if they have just met you. This Fosters a more personal sense of intimacy. 
   
   
   
2. The power of touch without being creepy, a simple touch on the arm or a pat on the shoulder can help the other person feel more at ease around you.
   
   
   
3. Ditch the power pose Looking super confident(Square shoulders, Head held high, etc) is fine in some work situations but can be off-putting in social situations. Don’t be afraid to show a little deference.
   
   
   
4. Subtly mirror the other person’s body language, to make the other person feel at ease. Be on the same level.
   
   i  read this from some books .personl realtionship skills like that. if i am interested in a someone, maybe i can subtly mirror the other person’s body language unconsiously. but if i mirror consiously, it looks very weird and awkward.
   
   
   
5. Don’t be afraid to accept compliments and favors. people generally like to help people.
   
   Maybe most korean are not good at this. because they are shy.
   and i was also same and still same. but i have learnd how to react such a kind saying. Thesedays, now i can react like this 
   First, “Thank you” it’s very typical way to react.
   Second, just express your feeling at the time. for instance, “ i’m embarrased to be talked like that even in front of you. Thank you.” like this just say honestly.
   
   
   
6. Really let the other talk and ask questions that the other person would be interested in answering( Most people are bad at this)
   
   yeah, right. like i’d say , in my work, there is a boss like to talk about his past experience. he always make additional remark. but i can react well. like this
   ”oh you are right”, “why couldn’t i think like that”, “oh, i learned again thanks to you”
   
   
7. Bring value to the interaction and expect nothing in return. For example, if the person needs help in something you have expertise in, Offer advice! Don’t be that guy(Gal) who talks to someone expecting a business connection or a hook-up
   
   yeah,, it’s very make sence. i want to help others in no reason. but frankly, i’m little calculating person.. so i always help others in the first no reason . but after some period of time, if i don’t get his help, even he doesn’t pretend to help me, i don’t wanna help him anymore. that’s me.
   
   
   
8. Don’t be so judgey. If someone rubs you the wrong way, Give him/her the benefit of doubt.
   
   
   
9. Open up and show a little vulnerability. THis gives the other person permission to open up.
   
   To vulnerability : Extract from ‘YOU’
   
   
   

 

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• subtly : there are two almost same thing. but there are absolutely little tiny difference. so those are subtly different. so ‘subtly’ means there are really tiny difference.

• Bring value to ~ : ~에 가치를 두다.

• expertise : you are prefessionally good at sth.

• hook-up : basically means connection of systems or equipments. etc. 

• Don’t be judgey : dont’t be a person who concludes others. even though you can’t know her/him well.

• Rub the wrong way : it is originated from cat or dog’s hair. they have hair in the right way. but you rub their hair in opposite way, so the wrong way.
  so cat will be annoyed.
  so it means annoying others.

• Give him/her the benefit of doubt : you can say like this way, let’s say you have a GF. and they have a job of tasks. And there might be a lot of men interested in your GF. so you can say like this “ Gal, although there might be so many chances to get other guys nicer than me. but i give you the benefit of doubt. “
  so it means you belive somebody 100%

• sympathy : 공감, feel the same way.
  
  
  
• intimacy : closeness each other.
  
  
  
• Forster : to raise children or develop sth like relationship or idea etc.     
  
  
  
• at ease : confortable
  
  
  
• pat : 토닥토닥 (ㅋㅋ)
  
  
  
• ditch : if you ditch something that you have or are responsible for, you abandon it or get rid of it. because you no longer want it.
  
  
  
• Deference : RESPECT